Episode 24

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19th Jul 2024

5 Ways To Spot A Fake Dom Every Submissive Should Know

In this episode, we’re diving into the world of doms and how to tell the real ones from the fakes. Desire shares her wild experiences and why it’s super important for submissives to find the right match, even if someone seems super attractive at first.

We’ll talk about what makes a dom legit and explore the little differences in how they start the kink conversation. Ever wondered why consent is such a big deal in BDSM, or how to spot when it’s being respected? We’ve got some eye-opening insights.

Curious about what real doms do when planning a scene or providing aftercare? Or how to handle things when they don’t go as planned? Tune in to learn how to find a genuine dom and make sure your experiences are awesome. This episode is packed with tips to help you navigate the kink world with confidence.

IN THIS EPISODE

  • Desire's experience with fake doms.
  • What is a fake dom?
  • Why submissive should avoid fake doms - even when they really fancy them
  • Sign #1: Fake doms tries to dominate you from your first interaction.
  • Fake doms VS real doms: how to start the kink conversation.
  • Sign #2: Assuming submissive = consent.
  • Fake doms VS real doms: how to plan BDSM scenes.
  • Sign #3: Fake doms are only interested in his pleasure, not the sub's pleasure.
  • Sign #4: Fake doms don't provide aftercare.
  • Sign #5: Fake doms get angry when the sub disappoints or doesn't want to obey unconditionally.
  • Fake doms VS real doms: How they react when a sub stops the play.

3 VALUE BOMBS

  1. Don't assume submissives are down to play with anyone. A sub gets to choose her dom and what she submits to. Always have a conversation about desires and boundaries before play.
  2. Being a real dom is about having control. If a dom loses it when a sub doesn’t want to do something or calls it quits, they’re not truly dominant.
  3. The difference between a fake and an inexperienced dom? An inexperienced dom is eager to learn and please their subs. A fake dom couldn’t care less about their subs and just wants to get what they want.

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About the Podcast

Love Beyond Limits
Welcome to Love Beyond Limits. We’re your hosts, Desire, a polyamorous submissive, and Purity, a monogamous dominant sadist. Our perspectives may differ, but our goal is the same: we’re all about empowering you to navigate the crazy world of modern dating, so you can get the love you deserve and a sex life that sizzles - with a hint of kink thrown in. Join two friends as they talk about dating dilemmas, steamy sexcapades, and unconventional relationships. Whether you’re curious about poly, dipping your toes in the kinky scene, or just want some real talk on love, sex, and the whole shebang, you’re in the right place. Together, let's break boundaries and redefine what true love really is.