How Do I Deal With Jealousy In Polyamorous Relationships?
In this episode, we’re tackling a big one: dealing with jealousy in polyamorous relationships. Ever thought you knew what jealousy is? Think again! We’ll break down why we feel it and why it's not always what it seems.
Wondering if all ENM folks feel that warm, fuzzy compersion? Spoiler: not always. And yes, poly people experience jealousy too. The usual monogamous tricks for handling jealousy? They don’t cut it here. We’ll show you what actually works.
Learn the healthy way to manage jealousy without putting the brakes on your partner’s freedom. Should you tell your partner when you’re feeling those jealous pangs? We’ll guide you through that tricky conversation and what to do if your partner brushes off your feelings.
Tune in for real talk and solid advice on keeping jealousy from messing with your poly vibes.
IN THIS EPISODE
- Jealousy: what it is (hint: it's not what you think!) and why we feel it.
- What is compersion - and do all ENM people feel it?
- Do poly people experience jealousy?
- Why the traditional, monogamous way of handling jealousy doesn't work - and what to do instead.
- The healthy way of handling jealousy, so you can get your needs met without restricting your partner's freedom.
- Should you tell your partner when you're experiencing jealousy?
- How to have the jealousy conversation with your partner.
- What to do when your partner ignores your jealousy feelings.
3 VALUE BOMBS
- Jealousy is the fear of losing someone or something you love. It's just a messenger that highlights your insecurities, so you can heal them.
- Feeling jealous? Before bringing it up with your partner, figure out what’s making you feel insecure and then ask them to help you work through it.
- If your partner is gaslighting you or brushing off your jealous feelings, that’s a big red flag. A good partner won’t let you control their freedom, but they’ll make sure you feel emotionally supported.
